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Relationship
The issue here is to reach for intimacy over compulsion. The human need for pleasure and connection is real, but when the need takes precedence over responsibilities or relationships, sexual fulfillment becomes problematic.
CSATc: Sex addiction is real! Much of addiction begins with trauma. Substances or processes help to avoid or ignore these painful experiences. When life inevitably becomes unmanageable, I believe that healing starts with owning your truth as an addict and as one who has been traumatized. Your recovery journey will be met with empathy and curiosity as we build a connection where you can workshop skills that allow for healthy relationships with yourself and with others.
Trauma
Trauma impacts everyone. Within families of origin, children will react differently to the same conditions that are present.
Depth Therapy
The unconscious holds a great deal of psychic wealth. There are stories and images that run through human history and still flow today within each person’s life story.
The Relational Field
Upon entering work with me, we build up and exist within a professional relationship. I work with you in mind.
“No matter how you feel at the prospect of dating – clear and confident, or nervous and tenuous – the task for all of us is the same: to walk the path of knowing who we are, learning to see others clearly, and dropping our images and expectations so we live more from our essence. This allows us to take the daring plunge into union.” Charlotte Kasl, Ph.D., If the Buddha Dated
Who are you without someone else?
Every couple is tasked with finding each other’s emotional maps (Stan Tatkin, Wired for Love). The idea of “love languages” (Gary Chapman) is no longer new, but it is still pertinent to how each human being relates to the other person(s). Achieving expertise in the significant other’s inner terrain is a lifelong process that involves speaking his/her/their particular language and humbly translating one’s own language.
The issue here is to reach for intimacy over compulsion. The human need for pleasure and connection is real, but when the need takes precedence over responsibilities or relationships, sexual fulfillment becomes problematic. The opposite may also occur when sex becomes so unenjoyable or traumatizing that it is avoided, referred to as sexual anorexia. On their own and together, partners need to explore arousal templates – namely, what turns them on and gives them pleasure. The journey of self-discovery does not have to be all work, but it is always continual.
“No matter how you feel at the prospect of dating – clear and confident, or nervous and tenuous – the task for all of us is the same: to walk the path of knowing who we are, learning to see others clearly, and dropping our images and expectations so we live more from our essence. This allows us to take the daring plunge into union.” Charlotte Kasl, Ph.D., If the Buddha Dated
Who are you without someone else?
Every couple is tasked with finding each other’s emotional maps (Stan Tatkin, Wired for Love). The idea of “love languages” (Gary Chapman) is no longer new, but it is still pertinent to how each human being relates to the other person(s). Achieving expertise in the significant other’s inner terrain is a lifelong process that involves speaking his/her/their particular language and humbly translating one’s own language.
The issue here is to reach for intimacy over compulsion. The human need for pleasure and connection is real, but when the need takes precedence over responsibilities or relationships, sexual fulfillment becomes problematic. The opposite may also occur when sex becomes so unenjoyable or traumatizing that it is avoided, referred to as sexual anorexia. On their own and together, partners need to explore arousal templates – namely, what turns them on and gives them pleasure. The journey of self-discovery does not have to be all work, but it is always continual.
